Are you a perfectionist? Do you want everything just right?
If you said yes, I’m with you! I know I’m not a perfectionist in everything I do but there are certain things that I get very pedantic about and struggle with moving forward because it is not perfect.
This discussion has come up more than once over the past couple of months, and while reading over a new blog, I discovered a post discussing just this. Ingrid over at Small Business Ideas says you should start from where ever you are.
For me I try and use the 80/20 rule… 80% complete and 20% to become perfect. If I work from this I find I get more done compared to trying to get it 100% perfect. When I work at the 100% rule I find that if I become stuck, I find myself cleaning because I’m procrastinating.
Now what Ingrid is saying in her article, and what I’m saying with my 80/20 rule is that you can apply this to any part of your life. If you are struggling with exercising 5 days a week, instead of not doing any cut back to 3 days a week. If you are stressing about the house being clean and tidy however you are stuck on time, do half of it one day and another half another day.
Once you’ve completed 80% of the task, you can always tackle the other 20% when you have more time or resources. When you choose to stop at the 80% stage due to circumstances, it doesn’t mean you have to stop striving to do things better, or be better, it just means that at that moment in time, the 80% is good enough.
Here’s to moving forward!
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Annually on the 8th March each year, thousands of events are held throughout the world to inspire women and celebrate their achievements. While there are many large-scale initiatives, a rich and diverse fabric of local activity connects women from all around the world ranging from political rallies, business conferences, government activities and networking events through to local women’s craft markets, theatric performances, fashion parades and more.d
This year I would like to encourage you to tell me about the women in your life… those that have inspired you, encouraged you and supported you through your personal and professional life.
SEND ME YOUR STORIES… you can email me at nicole@themoderngoddessonline.com.
Each story will be published here at A Modern Goddess Online. By sharing your story, you give hope to many other women and they can find inspiration from you.
Let’s together celebrate the women in our lives!
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Welcome to Empowering Women - Issue 13 and this issue focuses on relationships. Enjoy!
Tracee Sioux over at So Sioux Me asks the questions, “Is insulating our girls from consequences of mean girl behavior really empowering to them? Or are we cheating them by refusing to make them responsible for their actions?” Her article, Girl Fight examines a trend of increased physical violence in girls resulting from mean girl behavior.
Our next article is about a 7 year old who is forging relationships. Edith Yeung presents If a Seven-Year-Old Can Do It, You Can Do It Too! over at Dream. Think. Act.
Lori Jewett discusses over at Women Connecting/Relationships how it can be difficult to connect with others as most people are a little shy, and do not wear their heart on their sleeve. In her article, Between Us Girls she says “Connecting with other women is essential. We can laugh together, cry together and learn from each other. We all need, and deserve, this kind of connection in our lives and it is possible for all of us if we make the effort.”
Tina Su over at Think Simple. Be Decisive says “Not only is the feeling of jealousy not conducive for relationship building and effective communication, but it just doesn’t us feel very good.” She offers 9 Ways to Overcome Jealousy.
Host Bee can’t emphasize enough the importance of forging and cultivating friendships among women. In her article, Cultivating Friendships she offers ways to spend quality time with friends whether old or new.
Tell others about this Empowering Women Carnival… pass on the love, the knowledge and the wisdom and help anothers become empowered. Have a great week!
Thank you to everyone that submitted articles. I would appreciate author’s linking back to this carnival.
You are invited to submit your blog article to the next issue using our carnival form. The next issue focuses on Nurturing Self.
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Over the past 12 months I have had a number of people approach me about working with them. These are all great opportunities and some I’ve seriously thought about as I’ve felt that they may be too good an opportunity to miss. However after this week I have decided to sit down and re-evaluate my goals.
For me goal setting is a powerful process as it allows me to choose where I want to go in my life - whether it is personal or professional. If I know what I want to achieve I can then motivate myself to turn my goals into reality.
While reading a post over at the Business Diva, Donna-Marie asks her readers, What’s your price tag?. In her post she says “maybe we would like something but are not prepared to pay the price for it” and at that moment I had an ‘aha moment’.
I now realise why a couple of projects are no further than they were 6 months ago. I have been working on them when my heart has not been in them. This is a confirmation that I need to re-evaluate my goals.
At this stage I know…
- I want to further develop my online coaching services, www.moderngoddessonline.com.
- I want to increase my sales through my online store, www.moderngoddessgifts.com.
- I want to promote my face-to-face services, www.themoderngoddess.com.hk.
- I want to continue with creating our beautiful, guided journals and guided meditation cds, www.journalsforempowerment.com.
- I want to finish my university degree… one more subject and my assignment will be handed in at the end of April.
- I want to travel when I have the opportunity to… I’m off to Sydney in April for a wedding, the Peru, Argentina, Chile and New York in May, then to the South Island of New Zealand in September and October will see me in Kathmandu and Koh Samui or Phuket.
I’ve realised I have difficulty in saying ‘no’ because I do not want to disappoint people, however all I’m doing is creating headaches for myself (and literally, I’m creating headaches) as I’m stressing over the time I need to dedicate to additional projects. I’ve realised I’m not prepared to pay the price.
I did take the first step and explained to an existing client that I appreciate their support and their continued efforts to get me involved with their organisation, however I really need to focus on my own businesses and will have to decline their offer. I now need to take the next step… that is re-evaluating my goals so that I can focus on what it is that I want to achieve.
This is a good time for me to re-evaluate as I’m coming to the end of our financial year, and my next year business plan can then reflect my goals and objectives.
How are your goals going so far this year?
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As part of my Virtual Book Tour to promote our journal, Journal for the Modern Goddess, we are offering our readers and opportunity to win a Meditation Kit. All you need to do is check out our competition page, follow our tour and enter the competition. We’re happy to send anywhere around the world.
Good Luck!
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During my 15 year career in the training and development field in Australia, I have implemented a number of executive style coaching programs as well as new employee coaching progams. And more recently since becoming a certified Soul Coach, I have been asked the questions “what is coaching” and “why would it be beneficial?”
Firstly, I always get people to think about coaches in the sporting arena because most people can relate to this type of coaching. Then I say that professional and personal coaching is very similar but rather than focusing on a sport, you are generally focusing on an area or areas that you would like to improve and/or develop.
Coaches actually guide you, ask questions, probe but do not act as they know all the answers or they are right in the way they do things. Coaches work with their clients to help them to find the answers themselves, because you know what is best for you.
They are not about pointing out your failures but more working with you to achieve things you want to achieve. The whole idea of coaching is for it to be in a non-judgmental, supportive environment.
So why would it be beneficial to work with a coach?
Coaches can help you move forward because they are not emotionally involved in your situation and can look at the sitauation from so many different angles. Coaches ask you questions that help you examine the way you do things, what you say and how you do things. Coaches can look at your whole situation and help you break it down into smaller steps so that you can see progress rather than being stuck looking at the bigger picture. Coaches can offer you other perspectives that you may never have thought of, and they can teach you how you can become empowered to move yourself forward.
The traditional type of coaching is generally face-to-face, and one-on-one, however these days, coaching is offered over the telephone, in face-to-face groups, online, via email or eGroups such as Google Groups.
One of my goals this year is to develop The Modern Goddess Online, so that we (a team of coaches) are providing women with cost effective, time effective coaching services via the internet. I am still working through the exact business model which may include email, live chat and/or phone chats using conference calling techniques.
If you have used a coach for personal or business I would love to hear about it… Tell us how you benefited from the coaching sessions and how your coaching sessions we conducted.
I look forward to hearing all about it!
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“I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.”
– Frederick Douglass
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I stumbled upon this while searching the Internet. The author is LindaL.
As women we are a tapestry - thousands of threads woven together creating who we are in this moment. So many threads and fibres of different colors, textures, and lengths. They cover all apsects of our lives - the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, social beliefs. And yet we are a work in progress - never fully complete as long as we are breathing and making choices.
Our roles are also part of the tapestry - mother, sister, friend, mentor, co worker, lover, neighbor. It is important to create and nurture the relationships with our “sisters” who support, love, play, share, and work with us. I also believe the women in our lives have played a strong part in creating our tapestry.
I love it… what do you think?
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I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day purely because it has become so commercialised and also because we shouldn’t wait until this particular day of the year to show how we feel about someone we love.
Jenni over at Jenni’s Papercraft Design was running a Valentine’s Day special (which obviously we’re too late for) but the thing was her special was promoting her Love Notes Gift Set. I have my own gift set that Jenni sent to me late last year when she was still creating her product range.
The love notes are wonderful because if hubby is going away for 3 days for work, I’ll slip a love not in the side of his bag so when he reaches for his glasses or wallet, he’ll find a little note telling him how much I care.
I don’t mean to be a spoilt sport on Valentines Day and I know that there are many men that need a little nudge to express their feelings, and Valentine’s Day helps the cause. However, I feel more special when my husband brings me flowers “just because” or takes me out for a romantic dinner, or cooks something special. I’m sure he feels the same way when I pop a love note in his bag or when I buy him a little gift “just because”.
Maybe this year is the year to consider sharing the love all year round.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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As Tara and I head out on our virtual book tour for our journal, Journal for the Modern Goddess, I thought it would be good to address what being a Modern Goddess is all about.
Being a Modern Goddess means being committed to yourself, first and foremost, and this means being committed to your own spiritual and personal growth, living with intention and passion while striving to contribute to your immediate world, and the world at large in a positive, meaningful way.
Now this doesn’t mean you need to neglect your family or friends, it means that you do need to nurture yourself, be good to yourself and honour yourself. You need to learn how to relax and cherish yourself.
I believe that a Goddess lives in all of us, but she isn’t always easy to find. Most women have been conditioned from an early age to put the needs of others ahead of her own needs. Somewhere along the way we have lost our inner, sacred, wise woman, that I call the Goddess within.
Many women in today’s society are overcome by stress, time constraints and overexertion. Many of them feel a need to realign their physical, emotional and spiritual lives. However, in order to do this, every woman must first discover the deeper meaning of her life.
The Journal for the Modern Goddess encourages you to start your journey… to take the time to cherish who you are and who you are becoming. We also encourage you to explore the path you are walking along and be grateful for what you have in your life. Our three track guided meditation CD also encourages this at the same time as nurturing yourself. We made sure the meditations are no more than 20 minutes long because we understand that most women lead busy lives, especially if they have children.
Throughout the journal we offer questions for you to ponder, and this helps you begin journaling as we know that if one is not use to writing it can be difficult to get stared. Along with those questions we offer affirmations that you can use or adapt to suit your needs.
By taking the time to honour yourself, not only will you benefit but your family and friends will too.
As Modern Goddesses ourselves, Tara and I have chosen to sponsor one or two women who are listed with Kiva.org using 10% of all sales through our website during our virtual book tour. We are doing this because we want to help empower others in less fortunate situations. As a fan of Kiva.org I know that 95% of monies lent are repaid and once the loan is repaid, we can reinvest the money, therefore that money we can keep giving to other women and the cycle continues.
We have been blessed with being able to see our project come together and we would love for other women to have the same opportunity.
We are also offering our readers an opportunity to win a ‘Meditation Kit’ to help you on your journey of being a Modern Goddess. You can read more about it on our competitions page.
Remember… a Goddess lives with all women, it is just a matter of allowing her to shine!
With magical love and blessings,
Nicole
The next stop on our virtual book tour is over at Mind Think Success where we discuss ‘Working with Affirmations’.
Competition Clue: Our Goddess is from the European region.